I might be dating a married woman and he knows

It actually was his idea for her to explore outside of them

MentalDessert

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Photo by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash

Serendipity is a funny thing until it isn’t. I’m trying to give myself a chance to allow gay shit to happen. I’m a bisexual who originally dated girls when I was younger, but that wasn’t accepted in my family, so I got pushed into dating men most of my life. I have drawn naked women in my notebooks and been attracted to their form since memory serves me. Men were different. I had a healthy fear of them.

Assault at a young age will do that to you, as well as molestation and generalized trauma.

The dating app I’m on has a lot of polyamorous relationships seeking a third. I’m not a fan of this. As was said before, I don’t want to be your Unicorn for your threesome that you use and then dispose of.

A smoking hot woman slides into my DM’s, and we talk. She’s passionate about history, seems incredibly smart, attractive, kind, and great with messaging. I make the moves immediately on her, suggesting a museum date for us to go on. This is a secret love language for me. I love showing off museums since I used to work at one volunteering.

The first week doesn’t work, and the following, but we soon make a plan for not the original museum we had in mind but the one I know the best. I’m excited, and we continue to communicate. She mentions a husband, and I immediately categorize him as an ex-husband in my head.

A day before our date, this nags at me. She talks warmly of him and talks of her two boys. I go back to the profile, and it’s right in front of me. Married. Seeking: Intimate. Friendships.

I have been in polyamorous relationships before. I’m not an expert, and I don’t think I’m necessarily great at it. I debate whether I should fully back out because I don’t know if I can do this. If she’s hunting for a Unicorn for a threesome with her partner, I don’t know how well I’ll hold back going off. I’ve had literal friends find out I’m bisexual and then send pictures of their partner and them half-naked. Saying they’ve been looking for a third, or instead, he has, and that I…

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MentalDessert

I'm unapologetically me with a hard edged view of life. I love to travel and have crazy amounts of fun spaced between quiet moments.