I’m Not Your Bisexual Girl And Pixie Pipe Dream

No, darling, I don’t want to be in your threesome ever

4 min readFeb 16


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Too gay to be straight, too straight to be gay, so we’re erased in all aspects, needing to be either one thing or the other, when sexuality is a spectrum that can’t be defined so easily in extreme terms. When I mentioned my past partners were men, I have had the light of attraction die in women’s eyes. I have had their eyes light up when I mention my first relationship was with a girl when I say this to men. It’s an interesting dilemma that can’t seem to be fixed except by “fixing myself” in the eyes of society. I need to make more sense. I need to have what I am easily described.

Maybe it’s not them. Maybe it’s me.

My time is limited and precious. When I’m not working a fifty-hour work week, I technically have one day off, and that day is either spent with errands or replenishing all the energy I expended in my profession. This is what has happened with dating is that I generally don’t have time for it or, in the past, couldn’t find other queer people. Or even a community.

And, to be honest, I enjoy my company so much that I’d rather not spend it with someone else unless they are worth my time. I really love to go to things by myself because the expectations are my own and I don’t have to deal with someone cancelling at the last second. Which happens a lot and I’d rather just be accountable for myself.

I’m already introverted and have a wide variety of things that I already deal with, including my fluctuating mental health, severe clinical depression, anxiety, and PTSD, to name a few.

I work so many hours in a day, long shifts, physically and mentally demanding and emotionally at times, so after my work shifts, I’d rather not still be awake. I’d instead do what I need to unwind and repeat the process the next day.

My bisexuality is like a parlor trick. Some people find it sexy, hot, and exciting; others view it as a liability. I cannot be trusted not to leave them for another, my queerness in question constantly. I never found a queer community. My…




I'm unapologetically me with a hard edged view of life. I love to travel and have crazy amounts of fun spaced between quiet moments.